Tales from the Porn Side

Slut Shamed Into Leaving My Job

A former adult performer tells her account of facing disciplinary for a past in the adult industry she had left behind

Published Fri 9th Feb 2018
By itsAdult / Tales from the Porn Side

Slut Shamed Into Leaving My Job


The internet is full of news about people fired from their jobs for doing porn and so my story is not dissimilar except I was not fired but nonetheless I was penalised for a past I had left behind

Whilst taking some time out of porn I returned to civvy street to work at a large well known supermarket for about 2 years.

In my 2nd year of working there, I received a letter at home, which stated that disciplinary action was going to be taken against me for gross misconduct, having a conversation at work of a sexual nature  and for bringing the company into disrepute.

When I rang up the union rep to find out what I could do (which I wasn’t a paid member of) I was advised they  weren’t sure why this was being brought up now as the team managers had been aware of my previous work in the adult industry 6 months prior to this and was also advised that the only way the company could say I had brought it into disrepute was if I had worn the company uniform during a “shoot” whilst employed by them

So I attended this meeting with the two team managers (a male and a female). When I asked who had brought up the accusation against me I was told that the person wanted to remain anonymous and I wasn’t even given the persons  statement to read. As it panned out, apparently I was meant to have had a conversation with someone from work, on a night out which was of a sexual nature.. My answer to that was, if that  had happened, it was nothing to do with the company I was employed at  as it had taken place outside of the work place. According to them that didn’t matter as the person or people in question were their staff and I had met them at work so any conversation I may have had with then out of work still affects and concerned them.

During this meeting they went on to pull out printouts of info they had collated of various internet sites inc Wikipedia , which stated that I was an escort, did porn etc . They asked if I was still working in the adult business. I said no I wasn’t, all the while I’m being interviewed I’m thinking “come on ..really.. If I was still doing porn and escorting why would I be working in a supermarket stacking shelves of all places for less then the money I would have earned doing the sex work”.  

They went onto say that people were aware that I had appeared in various “TV shows” and how that would affect me knowing that they knew. I found out later that most of my colleagues at work already knew what I used to do and it didn’t really faze them .

At this point they had annoyed me of so much that I went off sick for a while and decided after a few months that I really wasnt interested in going back to work for them and left.         

The message in this is, despite leaving the porn industry it seems people make sure the porn industry doesn’t leave you and being singled out for it , despite the fact I was not fired, being hauled into the office and grilled about something I had left behind felt like moral discrimination and  corporate slut shaming

I wrote this to let those who are in a similar position know that if you are ever in a similar situation where you have to consider leaving your job then there are legal options you can consider if you want to fight back. I did not think about this at the time but if I was not so emotionally affected by the incident I would have challenged it

         Anon

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